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View 7mins's Profile 7mins Flag In the bush 21 Feb 15 10.34am Send a Private Message to 7mins Add 7mins as a friend

Quote 7mins at 21 Feb 2015 10.34am

They say violence doesn't work, but a guy I worked with had a house full of students next to his mum, they created a bit of agro (nothing too bad, music and a bit of mess) so he let it slide. One day though his mum complained about a bit of noise and a few lads were messing about in her garden... One of the students told her to f off.
The guy I worked with went round there beat the s*** out of the offender... Then grabbed his wallet... The offender thought he was going to take his money, but what this guy did was take down his personal details, then threw the wallet back at him, bent down and whispered in his ear "I'm going to kick your dad's head in the next time my mum has reason to complain"
Never had another problem.
Sometimes you need leverage.


The dude now works driving a black cab.... At work after the incident we called him" The Equaliser"


 

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Hoof Hearted 21 Feb 15 10.41am

Quote Part Time James at 20 Feb 2015 1.15pm

Quote Hoof Hearted at 20 Feb 2015 11.51am

You haven't met the tool that lives next door to me, Ken the Christian busy body.


Does he call himself that?


He ought to......... what a nause he is.

Loved SE's response re a "date".... very funny.

Edited by Hoof Hearted (21 Feb 2015 10.44am)

 

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Quote 7mins at 21 Feb 2015 10.34am

They say violence doesn't work, but a guy I worked with had a house full of students next to his mum, they created a bit of agro (nothing too bad, music and a bit of mess) so he let it slid. One day though his mum complained about a bit of noise and a few lads were messing about in her garden... One of the students told her to f off.
The guy I worked with went round there beat the s*** out of the offender... Then grabbed his wallet... The offender thought he was going to take his money, but what this guy did was take down his personal details, then threw the wallet back at him, bent down and whispered in his ear "I'm going to kick your dad's head in the next time my mum has reason to complain"
Never had another problem.
Sometimes you need leverage.


The dude now works driving a black cab.... At work after the incident we called him" The Equaliser"


Great story.

Students, though, can be scared off with a wet flannel and soap tbf.

 


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Quote 7mins at 21 Feb 2015 10.34am

They say violence doesn't work, but a guy I worked with had a house full of students next to his mum, they created a bit of agro (nothing too bad, music and a bit of mess) so he let it slid. One day though his mum complained about a bit of noise and a few lads were messing about in her garden... One of the students told her to f off.
The guy I worked with went round there beat the s*** out of the offender... Then grabbed his wallet... The offender thought he was going to take his money, but what this guy did was take down his personal details, then threw the wallet back at him, bent down and whispered in his ear "I'm going to kick your dad's head in the next time my mum has reason to complain"
Never had another problem.
Sometimes you need leverage.


The dude now works driving a black cab.... At work after the incident we called him" The Equaliser"


It always works
...

 


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I used to deal with this sort of matter in my previous life in private practise and hated every minute of my working life. BOTH sides feel they are aggrieved, usually both sides have done something daft/anti-social [even if they are unaware of it] and matters descend into a living hell of he did this and you did that. Matters become so bogged down in accusation and counter-accusation that judges make the judgment of Solomon and cut a line directly down the middle. It will cost a lot in time, money and health to achieve precisely nothing unless the facts are objectively wholly one-sided; and you are not one to make an objective assessment.

De-escalation is the answer [see Catfish reply] IF - and only if - he is of sound mind. Often these issues can be traced back to a seemingly innocent act by you or something that he has never mentioned - usually the size or roots of trees! He could be suffering structural damage which he wrongly assumes you are aware of. Anger and stupidity often masks chronic shyness and an inability to confront sensibly.

As suggested, treat him to a nice meal and say you are trying to bury the hatchet. If you are the "problem", get your wife to ask. Men generally act differently with a smiling female. DO NOT allow the meeting to go out of control e.g. let him rant without reply. He will run out eventually. If he gives you a list of complaints, do NOT treat them as trivial. They are so important to him he has become unbalanced. Write them down in front of him on the left side of the page and - in each case - ask him what he wants you to do about them; then write that down on the right side. If they are matters beyond your control, it is only when he is asked to give a solution that you can cross a line through that complaint BUT it may be that you both can work together to resolve it. Remember, at the end of the meeting recap the complaints and the to do list and get him to agree a practical way forward. Then get that typed up and HAND him a letter to show what you think was the deal reached. If he reads it in front of you and approves that is good; if he signs and dates his approval that is better. Remember, you may not like what you have to do but you have to be seen to be trying to carry out that list.

Any serious formalising of the dispute will render your property borderline unmarketable. At present you are already in some jeopardy as you must disclose the complaints he has made against you. It would thus be better if you can also disclose a letter evidencing a deal struck between you; and a significant period of time in which the agreement has been shown to work and there have been no further complaint from either side. Generally, these should be disclosed up front on any sale from the outset. Otherwise, you risk a substantial claim for misrepresentation that will break you financially.

While it pains me to say this, I would not recommend a solicitor. Once matters have gone to that level and particularly if the issue has gone before the courts, this could effectively blight the property for the foreseeable future unless your neighbour moved.

If he refuses to meet informally, one idea is an intermediary who he trusts. Does he go to church? His priest or vicar would be ideal. You will need to make that approach to his church and then set up a mediation.

Regrettably, if quiet diplomacy fails and/or if he is a raving nutter, you have to move.

 

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Quote The Sash at 20 Feb 2015 9.41am

On a serious note its never a bad idea just to sit down and talk to him and get his side of everything.

Why not invite him over for dinner or coffee and see if you can get to the bottom of what his actual gripe is. It may just be that it manifests itself through these petty moans and groans.

You might find that you do have stuff that you can compromise on or at least make a truce and decide on a fresh start.

If that doesn't work just nail his cat to his front door and set fire to his car he'll soon shut the f*ck up

..if you chose this route ensure you record it all! Other than that once he's made a large enough hole in his garage floor by smacking it with a hammer pop him in it and screed over the top. Jamie will advise on sterilising the scene...

 


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Quote jamiemartin721 at 20 Feb 2015 12.30pm

Remember the holy trinity, alibi, reasonable doubt and clean crime scene.

Lol...I only got to this after posting above

 


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Quote Lyons550 at 23 Feb 2015 3.51pm

Quote The Sash at 20 Feb 2015 9.41am

On a serious note its never a bad idea just to sit down and talk to him and get his side of everything.

Why not invite him over for dinner or coffee and see if you can get to the bottom of what his actual gripe is. It may just be that it manifests itself through these petty moans and groans.

You might find that you do have stuff that you can compromise on or at least make a truce and decide on a fresh start.

If that doesn't work just nail his cat to his front door and set fire to his car he'll soon shut the f*ck up

..if you chose this route ensure you record it all! Other than that once he's made a large enough hole in his garage floor by smacking it with a hammer pop him in it and screed over the top. Jamie will advise on sterilising the scene...

The first 3 paragraphs were there purely for filler to be honest - I would go straight to nailing Tiddles to the front door and lighting his Mondeo up like an evening in downtown Palestine

 


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bubble wrap Flag Carparks in South East London 24 Feb 15 11.26am

I recently aquired a woodchipper. If you or a kindly Hols member are willing to do your neighbour in chuck him in a chest freezer until solid and i will collect and put him through the chipper and feed him to pigs. Little mess and will never be traced.

 

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Quote Southampton_Eagle at 19 Feb 2015 9.04pm

Quote Pawson Palace at 19 Feb 2015 8.55pm

I'm 6'5 and weight best part of 19 stone and I train in the gym 6 days a week to lift heavy ass weight.

How about a beer afterwards??


He wants help with his neighbour, not a date.


 


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View Old Chap's Profile Old Chap Flag Orpington 24 Feb 15 8.58pm Send a Private Message to Old Chap Add Old Chap as a friend

There was a programme on channel 4 or 5 about nightmare neighbours

Something that was clear was you need evidence! Even if it doesn't go to court, if you confront him then he might realise you're serious about getting it stopped

Make sure you log everything, time & date and exactly what happene

Record noises (on something like an iPhone as it marks the recording time) or e-mail it to yourself as proof when it happened

Consider putting up a CCTV camera, even if it's a dummy it would be a deterrent to him doing anything

 


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View Jacey's Profile Jacey Flag 25 Feb 15 4.15pm Send a Private Message to Jacey Add Jacey as a friend

Dear All,

Thank you for your valued imput into a very unpleasant situation,I can assure, you ,not of my making.

A few days ago,because of my wife's health, we have temporarily moved into a flat we own,where the previous tenant vacated, to get some peace and a period of reflection.

Went back to the bungalow yesterday to collect a few items.Had only been on the scene for a few minutes and the most appalling hammering started.

Being on my own,without my wife to calm me down,I knocked on his door and accused him of deliberately targeting me, whenever,I use my own garage for ,particularly exercise purposes.He totally rejected my allegation,saying that he is simply chopping fire wood.

Explained to him that I know this noise solely starts,whenever I use my treadmill and when my wfe and I are about to sit down and eat and has gone on throughout the year,even in the Summer months, when nobody burns fires.Incidentally, he does not even often have a fire as I would immediate see and smell it.

Suffice to say, I told him one or two home truths and far from helping the situation, they now appear an awful lot worse and I wonder aboutthis next step and how future events will unfold.

Kind regards.

 

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