Online dating is fun and I've had a couple of long term relationships out of it. You shouldn't bring a first date back to your place, rookie mistake. You need to work out if they're crazy or not first, generally 3 or 4 dates on neutral ground as a rule of thumb. (That applies to both sexes).

There's no stigma on the online thing anymore. It can be difficult to meet people naturally in London. As for work flings, I work in an office and I've learnt from past mistakes that you don't s*** on your own doorstep. Not a great idea to end it with your manager, the workload was ridiculous

I had something similar in terms of the abuse, I was seeing an Italian girl and didn't respond to a text for a day, couldn't meet up for a week due to other commitments which I had explained. Next thing I know a barrage of abusive texts saying I was a player, seeing someone else and that I was weak etc. Not guilty to any of that, I'd only been seeing her 3-4 weeks. That ended sharpish!!!

Personally (and probably quite judgemental of me) I'd probably not consider a second date if she put it on a plate on the 1st.

Sadly I think some people have been stung in the past and take it out on the next guy!

Good luck with the hunt tho!

California sunlight - sweet Calcutta rain - Honolulu starbright - the song remains the same

I genuinely can't remember if I checked in to my dating app.
My profile is sparse and ambiguous.
I am thinking of updating it with no "nutjobs need apply".

Seriously, I think I'm gonna have to learn to deal with this kind of stuff. I'm gonna be tactile but stern. Any insults because you wanted a text... ya fired. Read my mail ... ya fired. Offended if I offer to pay... ya fired. Tell me your financial woes on date No1.... ya fired.

Yes to this... had someone on here pm me asking if I consider being married and paying for (and I quote) a hand shandy to constitute cheating. Makes a change from who I think will win out next game I guess

When I was a young girl my Mother said to me.. You listen here kid you're CPFC

Which friend will you make up next? The reformed Jihadi is my guess. It could be the remorseful Brexiteer.

"That was fun and to round off the day, I am off to steal a charity collection box and then desecrate a place of worship.” - Smokey, The Selhurst Arms, 26/02/02

There appears to be a stigma about availing of 'Online Dating' and I cannot understand quite why.

My wife's friend recently said to hear about her new partner words to the effect "I hate to admit it but I used....". I certainly wouldn't be averse to it if I wished to forge a relationship with someone - But the photo might be off putting !!!!

Had a girl be sick over my shoulder in a dark comedy bar club years ago. I think she got a bit nervous knowing that sex was going to happen that date or next one maybe as it was our 3rd date possibly from memory. She may have been drinking more and faster than usual whilst overdoing the snogging. Didn't see her again. She lived in South West London and at the time I had little time other irons in the fire and no car for a short time. No need for one and had plenty of cash if I ever needed a cab so just didn't.

Had a girl say to me after a couple of dates maybe that it was going to be me who had to pay for dates as I earned more which wasn't that much more being early 20s and she had bills or rent etc. What and I don't? Anyway that ended that one. Probably should've taken that as her agreeing to a month of testing out her headboard before I used that as a splitting up reason but it p1ssed me off too much I wasn't thinking as selfishly as she was. Shame as she looked like Thandie Newton and as good looking. She had split up with her boyfriend and as a friend of friends before the dates happened she offered their spare bed next to her after a boozy night out. Got to kiss her peaches but no consent so only the dates in the following weekends. Was invited to a party a few years later and it was obvious she regretted it, but could also be due to work progression the mercenary. I think I pulled someone she knew there. Hazy memory.

COYP