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Midlands Eagle 15 Jul 21 7.34am
Originally posted by Spiderman as I previously stated I suggested hypnotherapy but too expensive for them. I know nothing about hypnotherapy but looking online and a session seems to average £60-£70 I don't know how many sessions one would need but is that sort of sum too expensive?
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15 Jul 21 7.34am

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Originally posted by Spiderman

as I previously stated I suggested hypnotherapy but too expensive for them.

I know nothing about hypnotherapy but looking online and a session seems to average £60-£70

I don't know how many sessions one would need but is that sort of sum too expensive?

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Spiderman Horsham 15 Jul 21 7.56am
Originally posted by Midlands Eagle I know nothing about hypnotherapy but looking online and a session seems to average £60-£70 I don't know how many sessions one would need but is that sort of sum too expensive? For her parents possibly. Her dad lost his job during COVID and her mum works for the Council. I will try again to persuade, not a lot else I can do. I think they may be to proud to accept an offer if payment from me, although this may be something for me to suggest. I believe you may be right about the GP, as it is a strange scenario to understand. Her neighbours just complain as to how rude she is, when she does not talk to them. Sorry to hear about your illness, hope all is well Edited by Spiderman (15 Jul 2021 7.57am)
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Horsham 15 Jul 21 7.56am

Originally posted by Midlands Eagle

I know nothing about hypnotherapy but looking online and a session seems to average £60-£70

I don't know how many sessions one would need but is that sort of sum too expensive?

For her parents possibly. Her dad lost his job during COVID and her mum works for the Council. I will try again to persuade, not a lot else I can do. I think they may be to proud to accept an offer if payment from me, although this may be something for me to suggest.
I believe you may be right about the GP, as it is a strange scenario to understand. Her neighbours just complain as to how rude she is, when she does not talk to them.
Sorry to hear about your illness, hope all is well

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Nzpalace Selwyn 15 Jul 21 8.37am
Hi. Yeah my daughter has select mutism, was diagnosed a few years ago. It has been a fight to get the diagnosis and even more of a fight to get help. So me and the Mrs always here to help others where we can. So if like send me a PM and we can flick you over some info or answer questions you have. Also we were dealing with very helpful lady over here in NZ who was doing PhD in select mutism. I believe she is or has actually moved back to UK so we might be able to pass her details onto you. Edited by Nzpalace (15 Jul 2021 8.42am)
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Selwyn 15 Jul 21 8.37am

Hi. Yeah my daughter has select mutism, was diagnosed a few years ago. It has been a fight to get the diagnosis and even more of a fight to get help. So me and the Mrs always here to help others where we can. So if like send me a PM and we can flick you over some info or answer questions you have. Also we were dealing with very helpful lady over here in NZ who was doing PhD in select mutism. I believe she is or has actually moved back to UK so we might be able to pass her details onto you.

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Midlands Eagle 15 Jul 21 8.37am
Originally posted by Spiderman it is a strange scenario to understand. Her neighbours just complain as to how rude she is, when she does not talk to them. That's true as there are no outward signs of any medical condition so people don't understand that there may be a hidden one. My lad has exactly the same problem and won't even make eye contact with people that he doesn't know
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Midlands Eagle

15 Jul 21 8.37am

Originally posted by Spiderman

it is a strange scenario to understand. Her neighbours just complain as to how rude she is, when she does not talk to them.

That's true as there are no outward signs of any medical condition so people don't understand that there may be a hidden one.

My lad has exactly the same problem and won't even make eye contact with people that he doesn't know

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orpingtoneagle Orpington 15 Jul 21 8.52am
Originally posted by Spiderman Thanks, her parents really have tried with their GP, who just shouted at the girl ( very helpful). Her mum even contacted the MP, who seemed to take an interest but then COVID struck. My concern is the older she gets the more difficult it becomes. I will bring the subject up again with them, and see how it goes. Thanks again No problem at all. GP's are as others have said always really under the cosh and can't know everything. I actually mentioned this to my wife who said get a speech and language therapy referral ASAP but also said contact the Sellective Mutism Association a charity that really can help. Wish you all well and hope this can get some professional support
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Originally posted by Spiderman

Thanks, her parents really have tried with their GP, who just shouted at the girl ( very helpful). Her mum even contacted the MP, who seemed to take an interest but then COVID struck. My concern is the older she gets the more difficult it becomes. I will bring the subject up again with them, and see how it goes.
Thanks again

No problem at all. GP's are as others have said always really under the cosh and can't know everything.

I actually mentioned this to my wife who said get a speech and language therapy referral ASAP but also said contact the Sellective Mutism Association a charity that really can help.

Wish you all well and hope this can get some professional support

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Spiderman Horsham 15 Jul 21 9.50am
Originally posted by orpingtoneagle No problem at all. GP's are as others have said always really under the cosh and can't know everything. I actually mentioned this to my wife who said get a speech and language therapy referral ASAP but also said contact the Sellective Mutism Association a charity that really can help. Wish you all well and hope this can get some professional support Many thanks and thank your wife for me, I will certainly pass the details on and hopefully things will work out.
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Horsham 15 Jul 21 9.50am

Originally posted by orpingtoneagle

No problem at all. GP's are as others have said always really under the cosh and can't know everything.

I actually mentioned this to my wife who said get a speech and language therapy referral ASAP but also said contact the Sellective Mutism Association a charity that really can help.

Wish you all well and hope this can get some professional support

Many thanks and thank your wife for me, I will certainly pass the details on and hopefully things will work out.

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cryrst Online The garden of England 15 Jul 21 10.29am
Just a point. Have you all considered learning sign language. Firstly it will enable you to communicate and secondly it may open up avenues for employment. My brother in law is deaf and watching him with his family is amazing. Although he isn't fully BSL you can do online courses and who knows, it could seriously build your relationships across the whole family. Online there is a world of information. Maybe ask the girl if she would consider it. Lots of people have to use it so it wouldn't seem out of place in the outside environment. Maybe treat her your son and the family to an online course they can learn together and you and yours at the same time. That may kick start her into trying to fill in the blanks she hasn't learnt. Edited by cryrst (15 Jul 2021 10.32am)
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The garden of England 15 Jul 21 10.29am

Just a point. Have you all considered learning sign language. Firstly it will enable you to communicate and secondly it may open up avenues for employment.
My brother in law is deaf and watching him with his family is amazing. Although he isn't fully BSL you can do online courses and who knows, it could seriously build your relationships across the whole family.
Online there is a world of information. Maybe ask the girl if she would consider it. Lots of people have to use it so it wouldn't seem out of place in the outside environment.
Maybe treat her your son and the family to an online course they can learn together and you and yours at the same time. That may kick start her into trying to fill in the blanks she hasn't learnt.

Edited by cryrst (15 Jul 2021 10.32am)

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ASCPFC Pro-Cathedral/caravan park 16 Jul 21 11.23am
Best of luck with this Spider. I hope it works out for the best in the end. Red and Blue Army!
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Pro-Cathedral/caravan park 16 Jul 21 11.23am

Best of luck with this Spider. I hope it works out for the best in the end.

Red and Blue Army!

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silvertop Portishead 17 Jul 21 7.50pm
Is not the term Elective Mute? There's bound to be a help group who's details are online??
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Portishead 17 Jul 21 7.50pm

Is not the term Elective Mute?

There's bound to be a help group who's details are online??

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Spiderman Horsham 17 Jul 21 8.00pm
Originally posted by silvertop Is not the term Elective Mute? There's bound to be a help group who's details are online?? Nope definitely Selective Mutism [Link]
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Spiderman

Horsham 17 Jul 21 8.00pm

Originally posted by silvertop

Is not the term Elective Mute?

There's bound to be a help group who's details are online??

Nope definitely Selective Mutism

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BlueJay UK 18 Jul 21 12.04am
Originally posted by Spiderman I don’t think it is an embarrassment thing, although she has told our son she has a funny voice ( which apparently she hasn’t) this is now probably being used as as excuse. It is most definitely a mind over matter issue. Unfortunately I find it difficult at times but would obviously never say anything out of turn. My concern is that my son is now her comfort cushion and she may not feel the need to try and obtain treatment, although they claim she does want to. Her parents do not know where to turn now, as I previously stated I suggested hypnotherapy but too expensive for them. Maybe medication for nerves but do you really want to go down that road. Thanks for the advice, I was obviously having a low day yesterday I'd not heard of this condition, though can see why it would be so difficult for both her and those around here. From a bit of reading up really it sounds like an extreme form of social anxiety (based on certain settings) where there are occasional exceptions to the rule. In a sense she's done well to find your son, as it can't have been easy for her to let someone in. Here's hoping that somehow she eventually is able to do the same with others.
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UK 18 Jul 21 12.04am

Originally posted by Spiderman

I don’t think it is an embarrassment thing, although she has told our son she has a funny voice ( which apparently she hasn’t) this is now probably being used as as excuse. It is most definitely a mind over matter issue. Unfortunately I find it difficult at times but would obviously never say anything out of turn. My concern is that my son is now her comfort cushion and she may not feel the need to try and obtain treatment, although they claim she does want to.
Her parents do not know where to turn now, as I previously stated I suggested hypnotherapy but too expensive for them. Maybe medication for nerves but do you really want to go down that road.
Thanks for the advice, I was obviously having a low day yesterday

I'd not heard of this condition, though can see why it would be so difficult for both her and those around here. From a bit of reading up really it sounds like an extreme form of social anxiety (based on certain settings) where there are occasional exceptions to the rule. In a sense she's done well to find your son, as it can't have been easy for her to let someone in. Here's hoping that somehow she eventually is able to do the same with others.

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Spiderman Horsham 18 Jul 21 8.18am
Originally posted by BlueJay I'd not heard of this condition, though can see why it would be so difficult for both her and those around here. From a bit of reading up really it sounds like an extreme form of social anxiety (based on certain settings) where there are occasional exceptions to the rule. In a sense she's done well to find your son, as it can't have been easy for her to let someone in. Here's hoping that somehow she eventually is able to do the same with others. Thank you for your kind words. She does have some close friends who she can converse with as she does with her close family. Unfortunately I fear it may have been left too long to obtain suitable treatment but I can only hope, as I do not know what the future will hold for the 2 of them
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Spiderman

Horsham 18 Jul 21 8.18am

Originally posted by BlueJay

Thank you for your kind words. She does have some close friends who she can converse with as she does with her close family. Unfortunately I fear it may have been left too long to obtain suitable treatment but I can only hope, as I do not know what the future will hold for the 2 of them

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