My son is 11 years old, he is high functioning with ASD, for the most part this isn't an issue for us as parents, more so in the class room but if handled with understanding he can be an outstanding student.

I must admit it's hard sometimes to try to workout what's the ASD and what's him just being a naughty boy or just plain difficult. Anyway we took the stance that we won't just let him get away with stuff and he is clearly told or punished depending on what his done.

He also has a younger brother who loves to push his buttons (and to be fair the older one likes to return the favour). This I know is what is expected of siblings espically brothers. However when the older one loses it he really does, his a big lad and is very powerful for his age. He is generally very placid but can lose his temper very, very quickly, not only with his bro but generally whilst playing sports or other kids games in the playground. This is one of the reasons were trying to ready his mind for secondary school which he starts in September. For fear of him becoming a target due to his temper.

So there's a snap shot of him. The question I'd like to ask the holmesdale is do you think boxing world teach him self restraint or do you think it will, just make him more powerful, dangerous? Or will he lose his s*** in the ring as soon a he takes the first punch?

I know nothing of boxing, the people that I have spoken to have told me that it calmed them down unquestionably, but they haven't got ASD (well I don't think they do).

Many thanks for reading through that

Edited by homes (22 Jul 2016 7.28am)

IH: "I thought Jonny and Wilf were brilliant but it took a 39 year old master to watch the ball and keep his eye on it to finish it".

I think Tom-the-Eagle teaches boxing (i might be confusing him with someone else though) worth messaging him

Thanks Y I will message Tom a little later,

IH: "I thought Jonny and Wilf were brilliant but it took a 39 year old master to watch the ball and keep his eye on it to finish it".

Certainly try the boxing, it may work. If you go to a good amateur club they won't just sling him in the ring to spar. They'll have a good look at him first, bring his fitness up, make sure he listens and takes in what they teach in training and if he shows the right mentality then they'll move him to spar....even then it should be controlled, left hand only stuff so you know what's coming, practice your parry and jab etc. He'll take a few light shots and they'll see how he reacts to that.

Judo, although unfashionable, is good too.

Will backup Fledglings comment re. Judo.

Note, your location as New Eltham. There is Metro Judo club in Kidbrooke (based at Thomas Tallis School) who have the good fortune to have my old coach. He is fantastic with kids (having managed the Wandsworth team to win the London Youth Games 6 years running) and has experience of working with children with ASD. If you can get there, I would really recommend it.

As a sport it encourages control and focus and at your sons age, would be limited to learning falls, throws and holds. Locks and chokes come in to play around the age of 14.

As an aside, that club is also where Gemma Gibbons (London 2012 silver medalist) started.

Thanks for this

IH: "I thought Jonny and Wilf were brilliant but it took a 39 year old master to watch the ball and keep his eye on it to finish it".