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Originally posted by wordup
Because people are usually automatically assumed to be heterosexual and so if someone isn't it tends to come up at some stage. "do you have a girlfriend, mate?" "no, i'm gay" "farkinn ell geezer, keep that sh!t to yourself!" Fair point but it was in relation to the article about the film. Can't see the point of saying that people aren't defined and then go and define them. Seems a bit of a peculiar thing to do.
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Originally posted by johnno42000
Fair point but it was in relation to the article about the film. Can't see the point of saying that people aren't defined and then go and define them. Seems a bit of a peculiar thing to do. I see what you're saying, yes. I guess the message to take is that it's not the whole of the person, but at the same time it's still a difference. There are degrees of acknowledging something and being defined by it.
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Originally posted by wordup
1 - Gays aren't infertile 2 - If you talk about having a gay son like it's a failing, your son may well be unhappy. If you love and embrace a person for who they they most likely will not be unhappy whatever their sexuality is. 1. No, but they are far less likely to have children for obvious reasons. I'm not getting into a Pythonesque 'right to have babies' debate on that one. Current society does not entirely view homosexuality as 'normal' just yet even though bisexuality and varied tastes have been part of many previous cultures. I'm certain that many gay people feel the pressure of that and perhaps a degree of guilt that comes with feeling 'different'. I am not gay so I can't speak for gay people. Neither could I speak for all gay people if I was gay. I can only make an observation.
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
I agree with you....did they actually give that reason though? Still, some version of that could work...for that situation.
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Originally posted by wordup
1 - Gays aren't infertile 2 - If you talk about having a gay son like it's a failing, your son may well be unhappy. If you love and embrace a person for who they they most likely will not be unhappy whatever their sexuality is. They aren't it's true but they are far less likely to continue your line...just a fact of life. Given a choice, I want my line to continue. It's not a failing as, in most instances, it isn't a choice. Also I think recognising facts about reality shouldn't make someone unhappy. To give an example using infertility. You don't wish to make your infertile son or daughter feel worse about the fact that they are born infertile. They are not a lesser person. But by the same token, given a choice plenty of parents would prefer that they were fertile......I think this is just common sense.....You could replace infertile with short or being born ugly. I agree with you that if you bring your child up loved regardless of what they are then they certainly shouldn't feel to blame by what nature has given them. I have two male toddlers and I adore them. Me, not viewing all sexualities as equally useful doesn't change that regardless of what they are. They are Stirlings and that is all they need to be. Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 8.21am)
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
1. No, but they are far less likely to have children for obvious reasons. I'm not getting into a Pythonesque 'right to have babies' debate on that one. Current society does not entirely view homosexuality as 'normal' just yet even though bisexuality and varied tastes have been part of many previous cultures. I'm certain that many gay people feel the pressure of that and perhaps a degree of guilt that comes with feeling 'different'. I am not gay so I can't speak for gay people. Neither could I speak for all gay people if I was gay. I can only make an observation. I don't think you have to miss out on any part of life these days if you are gay. Not being in the majority and looking in has its own rewards. Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning.
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
I would argue, that it's also ok not to view heterosexuality and homosexuality as equal in worth to humanity. They just aren't. However, It's just not ok to make homosexuals suffer for what is predominantly 'nature given', where it can be reasonably avoided. Much in the same way it isn't ok to treat small or short or low IQ people badly. On an evolutionary basis having gay relatives is a massive boon for your gene pool and children. Biologically speaking a gay sibling will massively benefit the life opportunities of your your kids, specifically because they can't biological have kids, meaning their sole means of passing on traits is through relatives, notably their niece and nephews. It surprised me as a childless man how quickly to take to concern over how you can switch resources towards your siblings children when you have none. That pool of additional resource financial and emotional serves a massive evolutionary role
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
On an evolutionary basis having gay relatives is a massive boon for your gene pool and children. Biologically speaking a gay sibling will massively benefit the life opportunities of your your kids, specifically because they can't biological have kids, meaning their sole means of passing on traits is through relatives, notably their niece and nephews. It surprised me as a childless man how quickly to take to concern over how you can switch resources towards your siblings children when you have none. That pool of additional resource financial and emotional serves a massive evolutionary role I don't think any of that is proven and I've heard the argument before but it doesn't quite make enough sense to me. None of what you say here has an advantage for the species compared to an individual who creates children. Being gay doesn't mean you are interested in the welfare of other people's children, relatives or not. You may be, you may not. Also another argument against your contention is the fact that homosexuality occurs just as frequently in other species where social 'rearing' isn't a thing. Personally I don't know why it happens....If I were to guess I think it's down to variations in the wiring for attraction...Also, passed down genetics that occasionally reoccur. I don't know.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning. Of course having kids is more valuable than not having kids. Some people are more suitable to it than others but there's no equality here...unless you are into warm words of course....plenty of that about. You should judge your own behaviour's 'valuableness' by projecting out what the result would be if everybody did what you do. Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 9.34am)
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I don't think you have to miss out on any part of life these days if you are gay. Not being in the majority and looking in has its own rewards. Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning. I see heterosexual couples without children and they seem to just carry on doing the same stuff they always did, just trying to find things to amuse themselves in an understandably selfish and self indulgent way while having multiple dogs or cats as stand in children. It's a bit like two single people living together who just happen to have sex and go out occasionally. I'm guessing it is similar for gay couples. Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (29 Jul 2017 10.03am)
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
I see heterosexual couples without children and they seem to just carry on doing the same stuff they always did, just trying to find things to amuse themselves in an understandably selfish and self indulgent way while having multiple dogs or cats as stand in children. It's a bit like two single people living together who just happen to have sex and go out occasionally. I'm guessing it is similar for gay couples. Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (29 Jul 2017 10.03am) Essentially I agree. Some behaviours in life are more useful to society than others. Most of us are combinations of useful and un-useful behaviours. Society often doesn't really reward people along a societal value system as its measure for value is strictly financial....hence why a nurse earns nothing compared to a footballer yet performs a far more valuable role in terms of serious impact. Each individual's life is unique of course though we all fall into various groups that can be generalised over for convenience. So within that context we can discuss the 'usefulness' or not of those groups to some societal aim or other. It's important though to stress that this isn't a 'blame game'. It's just a recognition of reality rather than a warm flow of words. As stated no one is to blame for their inherent nature. If I were to be critical it would be directed at certain individuals I've met in life....I can think of two successful male teachers....individuals who were very moralistic and idealistic about how others should behave....Yet when you learnt about their own life you quickly saw how self absorbed and selfish they were..not bad people, just not exactly examples either....neither of them had children of course.
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Originally posted by nickgusset
Did I hear right? Bradley Walsh to be new assistant! Is Anne Hegerty the new Dr.Who?
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
Of course having kids is more valuable than not having kids. Some people are more suitable to it than others but there's no equality here...unless you are into warm words of course....plenty of that about. You should judge your own behaviour's 'valuableness' by projecting out what the result would be if everybody did what you do. Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 9.34am) You seem to think that the end of humanity would be a bad thing The problem I think, is that most people seem to assume they should have kids, or don't really think about it. I have, like most people, no value to society other than that I am one of 7bn or so people on the planet who is engaged in the act of discourse and social engagement, that produces this thing we call society.
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
I don't think any of that is proven and I've heard the argument before but it doesn't quite make enough sense to me. None of what you say here has an advantage for the species compared to an individual who creates children. Being gay doesn't mean you are interested in the welfare of other people's children, relatives or not. You may be, you may not. Also another argument against your contention is the fact that homosexuality occurs just as frequently in other species where social 'rearing' isn't a thing. Personally I don't know why it happens....If I were to guess I think it's down to variations in the wiring for attraction...Also, passed down genetics that occasionally reoccur. I don't know. I was talking in terms of evolutionary theory. Gay siblings are an advantage, from an evolutionary perspective, to your kids, because the only means they have of passing their traits / genes into the next generation is through ensuring those related to them prosper. They represent an additional resource beyond your parents that can benefit you, that won't be using their resources on their offspring. Even if other species, an infertile wolf, for example, is a benefit to the pack in ways that an fertile one - its a disposable resource for the pack, to protect and benefit the pack - It cannot reproduce and if we take the idea of evolutionary biology, its acts to protect the pack (and may even adopt cubs that are orphaned). Assuming we accept that passing genes and traits on is the functional drive of living species (and we're talking in a biological paradigm here). The more gay people related to you, the better your prospects. Because we're talking evolutionary theory and biological paradims, individual behaviour isn't considered - its about a species wide scenario - and the basis of evolutionary theory is the imperative to pass genes on into the future generations. Evolution tends towards scenarios were everything serves a value that occurs frequently in nature - although that role might not be beneficial to the individual themselves.
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
I see heterosexual couples without children and they seem to just carry on doing the same stuff they always did, just trying to find things to amuse themselves in an understandably selfish and self indulgent way while having multiple dogs or cats as stand in children. It's a bit like two single people living together who just happen to have sex and go out occasionally. I'm guessing it is similar for gay couples. Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (29 Jul 2017 10.03am) Existence has no meaning, no one has importance, we're all just a transient consciousness, that exists as a brief flash of existence in a vast and uncaring cosmos - You, me, our relationships, our children, everything we do, say and achieve are fundamentally meaningless. We're probably just acting out of biological driven habits to reproduce, like every other species, for reasons we don't understand. And even those of us who choose not to have kids, are probably doing so because of a biological imperative that we don't understand (possibly to take certain genes and traits out of the line). Existence with children, is as meaningless as existence with children.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I was talking in terms of evolutionary theory. Gay siblings are an advantage, from an evolutionary perspective, to your kids, because the only means they have of passing their traits / genes into the next generation is through ensuring those related to them prosper.
* I am childless by choice, and have recently made that choice permanent [snip]. My wife and I decided that, if we ever want kids, we will adopt. Neither of us being so arrogant to think that the world cannot go on unless our genes are perpetuated.
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Originally posted by Ray in Houston
* I am childless by choice, and have recently made that choice permanent [snip]. My wife and I decided that, if we ever want kids, we will adopt. Neither of us being so arrogant to think that the world cannot go on unless our genes are perpetuated. And you get a lie in.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I was talking in terms of evolutionary theory. Gay siblings are an advantage, from an evolutionary perspective, to your kids, because the only means they have of passing their traits / genes into the next generation is through ensuring those related to them prosper. They represent an additional resource beyond your parents that can benefit you, that won't be using their resources on their offspring. Even if other species, an infertile wolf, for example, is a benefit to the pack in ways that an fertile one - its a disposable resource for the pack, to protect and benefit the pack - It cannot reproduce and if we take the idea of evolutionary biology, its acts to protect the pack (and may even adopt cubs that are orphaned). Assuming we accept that passing genes and traits on is the functional drive of living species (and we're talking in a biological paradigm here). The more gay people related to you, the better your prospects. Because we're talking evolutionary theory and biological paradims, individual behaviour isn't considered - its about a species wide scenario - and the basis of evolutionary theory is the imperative to pass genes on into the future generations. Evolution tends towards scenarios were everything serves a value that occurs frequently in nature - although that role might not be beneficial to the individual themselves. You are just repeating the same points and I've already pointed out the problems inherent with this theory. It's not proof of anything of course but I recently came across an interview with Dawkins where he refers to this theory and briefly stated that he also doesn't believe it. A complete argument from authority of course and so as such no proof of anything but still, he's a pretty big hitter. So if he doubts it I'm waiting to hear your answers to the problems with the theory. Edited by Stirlingsays (22 Aug 2017 6.10pm)
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