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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
Bonobos don't have highly restrictive cultural limitations on who they can have sex with unlike us humans who are forced to masturbate and commonly spend a long period with one partner. That is the price we pay for a civilised existance and one that ultimately gives us the most peace of mind. I think for the most part we choose these restrictions, rather than having to live with them (at least in the UK and similar countries). But we're more complicated than just a simple binary scenario, and as those 'cultural limitations' become more relaxed the more expressive sexually we become, especially as we get older. Humans are just 'dirty' and enjoy sex, and different flavours there of.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I think for the most part we choose these restrictions, rather than having to live with them (at least in the UK and similar countries). But we're more complicated than just a simple binary scenario, and as those 'cultural limitations' become more relaxed the more expressive sexually we become, especially as we get older. Humans are just 'dirty' and enjoy sex, and different flavours there of. Naturally enough. When we have children, for example, most come to realise that sexual promiscuity ultimately plays second fiddle to taking care of our gene investment. We also recognise that we can't continue to play the field as we age because we become less attractive and risk ending up alone.
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Originally posted by Part Time James
So that's basically all my evenings summarised by one line. That's married life for millions I expect.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
Depends how you measure sexuality. 45% of Men and 60% of women interviewed report having had sexual experiences with members of their own gender - which kind of puts a bit of an emphasis on bisexuality with a preferential choice - Which interestingly is reflected among our closest biological relative the Bonobo Chimp. I'd probably argue that the most common of human sexuality is masturbatory. Even among men and women, I reckon people crack one out to their own bass strum more than they have sex. My feeling is that people are sexually defined by pleasure and kinks more than biology or procreation. Is right to limit heterosexuality to just being man on woman, if it involves bondage and non-penetrative orgasm. Not really Jamie.....I don't define my self vaguely for a start. As for your stat in the post I'm replying to....Well, not all sexual contact is fully consensual so I wouldn't say that's attuned to accuracy about their sexuality. When it comes to a person's sexuality how a person defines themselves is the relative statistic. According to the office of national statistics in 2015 your implication is way off. That has the gay/bisexual population at 1.7 percent...Only 0.6% identified themselves as bisexual...a figure so low I find it hard to believe but there you go. A larger group, 4.1%, refused or didn’t know how to identify themselves. If we generously regard all of the 'don't knows or refused to answer' as all being non heterosexual....In total that's 5.8 percent who view themselves as anything different from straight.....That's what...about 1 in 16 at most. My personal cynicism is that this figure is higher than that as we need to factor in cultural bias towards sexuality and many people's inherent self image attachment to cultural acceptability within their group....For example averages are significantly down in asian or black groups compared to white or mixed. So my personal hunch...though obviously not proven is that it's probably somewhere between 1 in 10-15. Like I was saying earlier in the thread women are more likely to identity as bisexual (0.8%) than lesbian (0.7%), whereas men are more likely to report as gay (1.6%) than bisexual (0.5%). Edited by Stirlingsays (27 Jul 2017 3.13pm)
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
Not really Jamie.....I don't define my self vaguely for a start. As for your stat in the post I'm replying to....Well, not all sexual contact is fully consensual so I wouldn't say that's attuned to accuracy about their sexuality. When it comes to a person's sexuality how a person defines themselves is the relative statistic. According to the office of national statistics in 2015 your implication is way off. That has the gay/bisexual population at 1.7 percent...Only 0.6% identified themselves as bisexual...a figure so low I find it hard to believe but there you go. A larger group, 4.1%, refused or didn’t know how to identify themselves. If we generously regard all of the 'don't knows or refused to answer' as all being non heterosexual....In total that's 5.8 percent who view themselves as anything different from straight.....That's what...about 1 in 16 at most. My personal cynicism is that this figure is higher than that as we need to factor in cultural bias towards sexuality and many people's inherent self image attachment to cultural acceptability within their group....For example averages are significantly down in asian or black groups compared to white or mixed. So my personal hunch...though obviously not proven is that it's probably somewhere between 1 in 10-15. Like I was saying earlier in the thread women are more likely to identity as bisexual (0.8%) than lesbian (0.7%), whereas men are more likely to report as gay (1.6%) than bisexual (0.5%). Edited by Stirlingsays (27 Jul 2017 3.13pm) Can't believe that. I've done extensive film documentary research and it seems ALL female babysitters, and the vast majority of nurses and hotel maids are well up for a bit of girl-on-girl at a moment's notice.
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Originally posted by npn
Can't believe that. I've done extensive film documentary research and it seems ALL female babysitters, and the vast majority of nurses and hotel maids are well up for a bit of girl-on-girl at a moment's notice. I have this notion that young nurses are definitely more 'up for it' than the general population....I base this notion upon a sample size of one. Ah, the joys of being in your twenties. Edited by Stirlingsays (27 Jul 2017 3.43pm)
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If they aren't defined by their sexuality, why come out and say they are gay?
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
Naturally enough. When we have children, for example, most come to realise that sexual promiscuity ultimately plays second fiddle to taking care of our gene investment. We also recognise that we can't continue to play the field as we age because we become less attractive and risk ending up alone. I like this, because I worked in the court service as a divorce officer, and that destroyed my optimism that people are generally monogamous rather than monogamous based on their option. For me, sex is sex, its not the same as love. That said I don't have an interest in screwing around etc it seems like a lot of effort.
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I like this, because I worked in the court service as a divorce officer, and that destroyed my optimism that people are generally monogamous rather than monogamous based on their option. For me, sex is sex, its not the same as love. That said I don't have an interest in screwing around etc it seems like a lot of effort. It isn't if you have a POF profile and low standards.
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Originally posted by johnno42000
If they aren't defined by their sexuality, why come out and say they are gay? Coming out was a big issue back in the days when homosexuality was against the law and/or legally discriminated against. In the more enlightened world we live in now, it's less important and, almost contradictory for exactly the reason you state. Unfortunately, especially in the US and especially down here in the "Bible Belt", gay rights (and women's rights and minorities' rights) are under constant assault. It's still legal in the majority of states (it's over 30, I believe) to discriminate against homosexuals at work and in housing. So, it's still, unfortunately, necessary for a gay person who comes out if, for no other reason, than to show those around them - many of whom may have a negative, stereotypical opinion of homosexuality - that it's ok to be gay.
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Originally posted by Ray in Houston
Coming out was a big issue back in the days when homosexuality was against the law and/or legally discriminated against. In the more enlightened world we live in now, it's less important and, almost contradictory for exactly the reason you state. Unfortunately, especially in the US and especially down here in the "Bible Belt", gay rights (and women's rights and minorities' rights) are under constant assault. It's still legal in the majority of states (it's over 30, I believe) to discriminate against homosexuals at work and in housing. So, it's still, unfortunately, necessary for a gay person who comes out if, for no other reason, than to show those around them - many of whom may have a negative, stereotypical opinion of homosexuality - that it's ok to be gay.
I would argue, that it's also ok not to view heterosexuality and homosexuality as equal in worth to humanity. They just aren't. However, It's just not ok to make homosexuals suffer for what is predominantly 'nature given', where it can be reasonably avoided. Much in the same way it isn't ok to treat small or short or low IQ people badly.
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Originally posted by Ray in Houston
Coming out was a big issue back in the days when homosexuality was against the law and/or legally discriminated against. In the more enlightened world we live in now, it's less important and, almost contradictory for exactly the reason you state. Unfortunately, especially in the US and especially down here in the "Bible Belt", gay rights (and women's rights and minorities' rights) are under constant assault. It's still legal in the majority of states (it's over 30, I believe) to discriminate against homosexuals at work and in housing. So, it's still, unfortunately, necessary for a gay person who comes out if, for no other reason, than to show those around them - many of whom may have a negative, stereotypical opinion of homosexuality - that it's ok to be gay. My apologies. I forgot to put the link to the new Star Trek film that was in the post above mine (old age), I didn't mean in general, just in relation to that article [Link] “We’re at a point in time where people aren’t defined by their sexuality,” says Aaron Harberts
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
I would argue, that it's also ok not to view heterosexuality and homosexuality as equal in worth to humanity. They just aren't. However, It's just not ok to make homosexuals suffer for what is predominantly 'nature given', where it can be reasonably avoided. Much in the same way it isn't ok to treat small or short or low IQ people badly. I'm not sure where equality comes into it where gay people are concerned other than the quality of being human. Equality does not depend on similarity.
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
I'm not sure where equality comes into it where gay people are concerned other than the quality of being human. Equality does not depend on similarity. Well, yes....still that one difference can be rather an important difference. Are you allowed to prefer your only son to be straight for example? Are you a terrible person for preferring your lineage to continue?....I think it's an irrationality to be told that 'discriminating' between two things is wrong. As for equality in terms of the law.....well yeah but That particular case made me take stock of the whole situation again. I don't want us to return to hotels having, 'no irish' , 'no blacks' signs in their windows. But I also didn't like how those activists behaved....I'm genuinely mixed up about that issue. Maybe refusing a job just as long as you don't give a reason....Mind you, I'm not sure that works well either.
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Originally posted by Stirlingsays
Well, yes....still that one difference can be rather an important difference. Are you allowed to prefer your only son to be straight for example? Are you a terrible person for preferring your lineage to continue?....I think it's an irrationality to be told that 'discriminating' between two things is wrong. As for equality in terms of the law.....well yeah but That particular case made me take stock of the whole situation again. I don't want us to return to hotels having, 'no irish' , 'no blacks' signs in their windows. But I also didn't like how those activists behaved....I'm genuinely mixed up about that issue. Maybe refusing a job just as long as you don't give a reason....Mind you, I'm not sure that works well either.
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
Inadvertently, the mask slips further...
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Originally posted by nickgusset
Inadvertently, the mask slips further... What an immature little man you are. I think that many gay people are unhappy but I can't prove it, just like you can't prove they are happy. Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (28 Jul 2017 8.25pm)
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Originally posted by johnno42000
If they aren't defined by their sexuality, why come out and say they are gay? Because people are usually automatically assumed to be heterosexual and so if someone isn't it tends to come up at some stage. "do you have a girlfriend, mate?" "no, i'm gay" "farkinn ell geezer, keep that sh!t to yourself!"
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger
1 - Gays aren't infertile 2 - If you talk about having a gay son like it's a failing, your son may well be unhappy. If you love and embrace a person for who they they most likely will not be unhappy whatever their sexuality is.
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