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 Superfly  The sun always shines in Catford 30 Mar 17 3.27pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
I have been chatting to a woman, 42... works in health care, 1 child (13). We've only spoken once on the phone, said she'd rather go out on a week night, but not in the town she lives. Date Or Swerve ? Smash it
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| Part Time James 30 Mar 17 3.27pm |
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Actually, I am useless for advice. I went with the scatter gun approach when I was online dating. I pretty much went on a date with anything that replied to me.
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 3.40pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
Girls my age want kids/marriage/security. I'm not against that, but it has to be a natural progression. Meet a girl who's 37, and wants kids... they don't half push the issue.. it has to be organic. I'm also (more) selective now... I won't settle for anything that doesn't meet my expectations... which aren't massively high... just want a decent girl, with a decent moral compass. I was always upfront about not wanting kids. On the profile, and on the first date. Russian girls are amazing. I went out with one I met online for a while, who was pretty and fit. What she was looking for was someone who can hold down a job, wouldn't steal from her, didn't drink too much and wouldn't hit her. Even my expectations of a suitable partner were higher than that.
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 Michaelawt85 Bexley 30 Mar 17 3.45pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
I have been chatting to a woman, 42... works in health care, 1 child (13). We've only spoken once on the phone, said she'd rather go out on a week night, but not in the town she lives. Date Or Swerve ? Swerve.. not in the town she lives? Straight away screams who is she trying to avoid? Ex maybe . Sounds like if it were to go somewhere the no weekend stuff might be an issue. Avoid is my advice
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 3.47pm |
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Originally posted by Part Time James
Actually, I am useless for advice. I went with the scatter gun approach when I was online dating. I pretty much went on a date with anything that replied to me. Pretty much my tactic. For women, in online dating you can really pick and choose. As a man, you're up against a very big field of competition. I did find that after I'd been on a few months, I got more responses - especially after I posted pictures of me with some female friends. I even got a female friend on Match.Com to write my profile (which further increased responses). From friends and my wife, it seems that men on internet dating sites seriously outnumber the women, and about 20% of them seem to think that junk pictures are suitable substitutes for a first date, and that women will be immediately attracted if their first communication enquires about their fetish.
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| Michaelawt85 Bexley 30 Mar 17 3.47pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
There's also another on the horizon, but she's 50... and likes Elvis. Swerve that one as well.. next!
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 3.53pm |
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Originally posted by Michaelawt85
Swerve.. not in the town she lives? Straight away screams who is she trying to avoid? Ex maybe . Sounds like if it were to go somewhere the no weekend stuff might be an issue. Avoid is my advice Social workers never go out in the town they live and work in. Its just asking for trouble. Plus I think it can be reasonable for a woman, meeting an unknown man, to not want them to know roughly where they live. Plus they might be concerned about it getting back to the kid if they do, or the kids father - could become an issue if he is interested in custody. Weekend is probably down to the kid. But bonus dice here, if she can't do weekends, then the holidays off the table. Most first dates were first name only. Its remarkably easy to find someones address with a town and full name.
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 3.54pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
There's also another on the horizon, but she's 50... and likes Elvis. Swerve, I once went out with a girl, who was very attractive, but only like Marillion and Elvis. That was a total deal breaker.
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 3.57pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
just want a decent girl, with a decent moral compass. Eastern European. Reasonable morals, well educated and sexy accents.
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| Michaelawt85 Bexley 30 Mar 17 3.57pm |
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
Social workers never go out in the town they live and work in. Its just asking for trouble. Plus I think it can be reasonable for a woman, meeting an unknown man, to not want them to know roughly where they live. Plus they might be concerned about it getting back to the kid if they do, or the kids father - could become an issue if he is interested in custody. Weekend is probably down to the kid. But bonus dice here, if she can't do weekends, then the holidays off the table. Most first dates were first name only. Its remarkably easy to find someones address with a town and full name. You know what.. I go with my gut feeling on most matters. Mine tells me it's no where near as complicated as any of that.
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| Michaelawt85 Bexley 30 Mar 17 4.06pm |
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
Eastern European. Reasonable morals, well educated and sexy accents. Nooo. Be on the ponce within no time for money to send home. Wanting to marry you thinking your loaded, have some mad ex who's gun running for the kgb. Avoid
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 4.54pm |
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Originally posted by Michaelawt85
Nooo. Be on the ponce within no time for money to send home. Wanting to marry you thinking your loaded, have some mad ex who's gun running for the kgb. Avoid Only once in my experience, and she was Chechen (with some very scary relatives - Nice enough girl but not worth the baggage attached when you rely on security clearance for work). A lot of single Eastern European women come here to escape from the pressure of sexist expectations. I definitely have a thing for Romanian and Russian women though. Japanese women have a thing for British guys as well. I worked for a Japanese company in the UK, and loads of Japanese career women would jump at the chance to work in the UK and Europe, because they could be accepted as equals.
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| elgrande bedford 30 Mar 17 5.04pm |
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
Only once in my experience, and she was Chechen (with some very scary relatives - Nice enough girl but not worth the baggage attached when you rely on security clearance for work). A lot of single Eastern European women come here to escape from the pressure of sexist expectations. I definitely have a thing for Romanian and Russian women though. Japanese women have a thing for British guys as well. I worked for a Japanese company in the UK, and loads of Japanese career women would jump at the chance to work in the UK and Europe, because they could be accepted as equals. Apparently something like 95% of Japanese women own at least one vibrator....
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 30 Mar 17 5.18pm |
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Originally posted by elgrande
Apparently something like 95% of Japanese women own at least one vibrator.... I like a woman who's familiar with sex toys. I'm quite happy to use them, as I'm a naturally inclined towards being lazy and technological solutions. If vibrators could take the blame for s**t they didn't do and put up shelves.....
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| hedgehog50 Croydon 30 Mar 17 5.50pm |
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Originally posted by elgrande
Apparently something like 95% of Japanese women own at least one vibrator.... Yeah, but I think they use them in the tea ceremony.
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| Part Time James 30 Mar 17 6.34pm |
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I like a woman who's familiar with sex toys. I'm quite happy to use them, as I'm a naturally inclined towards being lazy and technological solutions. If vibrators could take the blame for s**t they didn't do and put up shelves..... I was presented with a vibrator to use on a girl once and it had more controls on it than a computer keyboard. I was told "do not press THAT button, I don't like the sensation". Of course, that was exactly the button I hit by mistake just as she was on the foam and to make it worse, whilst trying to turn it off I just ended up making it significantly faster. I vaguely remember me putting all the blame on her though and being cross with her for giving me something so complicated!
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eagleman13  On The Road To Hell & Alicante 30 Mar 17 6.45pm |
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Originally posted by 7mins
There's also another on the horizon, but she's 50... and likes Elvis. Can I have the 50yo..... I like em younger
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| Cucking Funt Clapham on the Back 30 Mar 17 6.48pm |
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Originally posted by jamiemartin721
I like a woman who's familiar with sex toys. I'm quite happy to use them, as I'm a naturally inclined towards being lazy and technological solutions. If vibrators could take the blame for s**t they didn't do and put up shelves..... A hammer is not a sex toy, Jamie.
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| legaleagle 30 Mar 17 8.01pm |
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Originally posted by Michaelawt85
Nooo. Be on the ponce within no time for money to send home. Wanting to marry you thinking your loaded, have some mad ex who's gun running for the kgb. Avoid I've been out with several over the years...like Jamie says,well educated,generally v attractive, "deep",loyal...though also pretty "crazy"! Would do a lot for you though might wreak physical harm on you if you cheat! But morals wise, certainly no worse than UK women (generalising,and,remember, not as if no "domestic" gold diggers around..) and thinking of them all as being after dosh is like saying all Brits moan and are snooty, or all asylum seekers are spongers... Edited by legaleagle (30 Mar 2017 8.02pm)
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